It's hard to even believe that this picture was taken on Dec.28, 2009, almost three months ago ! Maggie came to us as a quiet, floppy, shocked little girl. She had no idea what was happening and really neither did we. We had no idea what a complete JOY and BLESSING Maggie is or how much we would love her immediately. We also didn't know she was deaf. Looking back at our China pictures now, I see how Maggie was so confused and detached. She couldn't hear what was happening around her and she had to have been scared to death. She did not respond to her Chinese name or to our voices, she did not take a bottle for three days, got very constipated, continually looked at her hands and laid her right ear down on tables or floors to hear the vibrations. She preferred to lay down on the floor rather than sit up. Her little body went through so much as she grieved and tried to understand what was happening. I think her way of dealing with all the changes was to just shut down. How could she have known that we were going to love and care for her, that she would have a forever family and all the hugs and kisses she could stand. She couldn't. She didn't. But, that is ok. We have taken it slow, and day by day we have watched her unfold like a beautiful flower.
Her special need was multiple: A heart condition called VSD (small) and microtia/atresia ( later we found out she has severe hearing loss a.k.a. deaf) We were told she could say bababa, smile, stand on her own and that she was lively and liked musical toys. All the pictures of her showed her to be a very healthy looking little girl. We had done all the research, read special needs blogs, attended a seminar on what to expect when you adopt internationally and prayed a lot for our daughter.
I remember when I first saw her through the curtain at the adoption center in Guangzhou. Maggie looked a little like her pictures, but really she looked different. I saw her head was crooked to one side, her facial expression was out of sorts, she had what looked like bug bites on her face and her head was oddly misshapen. Chuck and I waited till it was our time to officially meet Maggie and she was first handed to me. With a pink toy duck in one hand, I reached out to Maggie. Finally, I was holding my baby girl. This was the moment I had dreamed about for so long. There was a big smile on my face and my heart was beating so fast. I took a good look at her. I loved her so much already and it was evident Maggie had some things to overcome. She was more like an infant than a 14 month old. She would lean way back when I held her and she stared at her hands constantly. At one moment, I stopped to pray and tearfully thank God for Maggie, I asked for wisdom to be her mother and I prayed that Maggie's pain would be washed away, that she would know she is accepted and not rejected. It was a crazy Gotcha day and I was so overcome with emotions and questions. Was she ever held ? Did she ever have toys to play with ? Just how neglected was she ? I thought she was lively and talking ? What really went on in her orphanage ? I had a feeling that Maggie was severely neglected. I was right. I also watched her intently and knew that she was very smart and she was a fighter, chosen by God to be my daughter, and destined to overcome her special needs. I saw it. I knew it. My heart felt it.
Because now, we see Maggie thriving. She laughs and smiles, plays and discovers, hugs and snuggles. She is changing every day into this bright, sweet little girl that we knew was there somewhere. Sure, we still have days where she looks lost and sad or she stares at her hands too long like she doesn't know what to do. But then, she's back and laughing in her daddy's arms. All Maggie needed was love, someone to give her a chance, to believe in her and tell her she matters. Her special need was that she needed a family. Everything else is minor compared to that need. She has completely and totally captured our hearts and we are forever changed. How could we not be ?
Would we adopt a special needs child again ? Yes !!! A thousand times yes. Was it worth all the unknowns, money and time ? Yes ! Every child is precious and important - the whole and the broken, the sick and lame. My heart breaks to know that there are 147 million little Maggie's around the world that need a family and someone to say to them " you matter, God loves you and so do I". My prayer is that by sharing Maggie's story, more families will hear the cry of the orphans and say YES to adoption. I pray also that James 1:27 will burn in the heart of Christians " Pure and lasting religion in the sight of God our father means that we must care for orphans".
Thankfully, Maggie's story does not end here. But, that will have to be in Part 2.
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